First Valentine's Day Together

My husband and I dated for 3 years before getting married. (Our 3 year anniversary was 2 days before our wedding). During those three years, my husband and I never spent a Valentine's Day together. I always had to make a choice of having him there for my birthday or for Valentine's and I chose my birthday every year.

This year will be the first time we get to spend Valentine's Day together. I love the holiday. While some people argue that you shouldn't devote just one day to celebrating your love for someone, but instead, they should celebrate their love every day. While that is a nice sentiment, I love holidays and this one is devoted to my love for my husband. I plan on doing something very special for him that I usually don't do. I either want to take him out to dinner somewhere fancy and get all dressed up, (that part is for me) or I want to cook him a big dinner with candles and romantic music. I want to get him a box of chocolate or his favorite candy and maybe give him a massage.

Even though we spend every night together and we get to spend the rest of our lives with each other, this is our day to express the love in a way that we do not get to do every day. This isn't the only day or holiday that I express my deepest love. Other holidays that I get to do it are Christmas, his birthday, our days off together, which we never have, and on days when I decide to do something special out of the blue.

It makes me sad when the people who are single put down such a special day. My father used to buy chocolates for my sisters and I every Valentine's day and have them on the table for us before we went to school. Just because I didn't have a boyfriend doesn't mean that someone didn't love me. If you are single on Valentine's Day, do something special for yourself. You deserve to feel special and loved. If you don't love yourself first, no one will. Those who are single, either by choice or by life, should love Valentine's Day just as much as those who are committed.

It's true that society has turned such a special day into a commercialized buying frenzy just like they have with all the other holidays. I don't buy into that. To me, Valentine's day is a time for me to do something special for my husband. Yes, I will buy him a card and yes I will probably buy him chocolate. However, I don't need to spend tons of money to make my husband feel special and loved. All I have to do is one simple thing to let him know I love him.

What are you doing for Valentine's Day?